Addictive Behavior (Dangerous Warning Signs You Should Never Ignore)
It's easy to dismiss aggressive behaviors when dealing with someone who is intoxicated or addicted. You tell yourself that your addicted loved one didn't mean what they said or convince yourself that they only behaved that way because they were intoxicated. But, there are some behaviors you should never ignore. Here are the top 7 warning signs of violent or abusive behavior.
1. Any kind of physical behavior(pushing, throwing, shoving)
2. Intimidating behavior (Yelling, hurtful words)
3. Blocking/Restraining (Making it hard for you to leave or walk away)
4. Threats made to you or to harm themselves(Always take these threats seriously)
5. Raging (You can see/feel their rage coming out) Use reflective listening in this case.
6. Any time someone has an angry episode while they're under the influence.
7. When someone is going through withdrawal.
If any of these situations arise please do not ignore these types of behavior. These indicate trouble and are major warning signs that the...
Have You Lost Yourself In Your Loved One's Addiction?
Does your loved one's addiction make you feel angry, sad, anxious, resentful, hopeless, desperate, and exhausted? Does it make you act impulsively and irrationally? Do you say and do things you later regret?
You realize on some level that you're not the same person you used to be, right?
It's all of those emotions from your loved one's addiction that leads to making impulsive and desperate decisions and that leads to GUILT! You're living in the survival part of your brain which causes you to make irrational decisions.
In this video, I go through the three-step process of how you got here and give you the three-step process to dig yourself out and reclaim yourself, your emotions, and your identity!
Amber Hollingsworth
Motivating Yourself (or a loved one) To Get Sober
These are the three fundamental laws of human behavior that you should never ignore if you or your loved one is trying to get sober. What motivates us? What makes some float in negative bubbles and make others grow tall in positivity and how does that relate to someone struggling with addiction?
From the book, "THE LAWS OF HUMAN NATURE".
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Attitude determines reality- We react to what people put out toward us. If you believe that people never get better from addiction that's going to be the reality of your situation. When you have this attitude it's going to impact how you feel which is how you react to the world. You have to have the attitude or belief that your addicted love one can get better.
To look deeper into the other two laws, watch the full video!
Amber Hollingsworth
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Surviving Your Loved Ones Addiction
Caring for someone with an addiction is a long scary journey. There are days when it seems all is lost. At times, Scott admits that he had days where he thought, "This is never going to get better." His two sons are now in recovery.
In this live interview with a family recovery coach, Scott Nunnery, we talk about finding hope even on the darkest of days.
Some things to consider if you're having a really hard day:
- Remember that you're not powerless
- Go to a family group/meeting
- Lower your expectations
- Educate yourself
- Turn your problem over to a higher power
- Don't forget to take care of yourself
Make an appointment with Scott to discuss your situation!
Watch this next:
After Rehab (What To Expect When Your Kid Leaves Addiction Treatment)
Your Questions Answered
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This week, we asked you to write in to our team to suggest a topic for our live video and you delivered!
In this video, I cover these questions and more:
- Co-parenting with an alcoholic
- Preventing relapse into addictive behaviors
- Dealing with a relapse, and getting a functional alcoholic out of denial
Ps- you can write in topic suggestions for next week's video! Send your email to [email protected], describe your situation, ask a question, and then look for it on next week's live. Every Thursday at 1 pm (EST) on our YouTube channel.
Amber Hollingsworth
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How to Talk to Your Loved One About Their Addiction
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People usually get defensive when confronted about their addiction, but you can use a few techniques to bypass their defensiveness.
I'm going to break this down into sections when it comes to talking to your loved one about their addiction, their denial, recovery, relapse, etc. What I'm going to share always needs to be top of mind when you're having a conversation about it so there's no conflict, arguments, or them putting a wall up and not speaking.
Contemplative Stage of Change
If your loved one is saying things like "I wish I could get better" or "I'm tired of feeling stuck" Contemplators know that they have a problem and begin to think about how they're going to solve it.
Caution: You have to take the queue from them first. If you come at them with a lot of information too fast, you're going to lose them and your credibility, which will only slow down the process. Your first goal is to help them see that's there's a problem.
Active Stage of...
